📖 God’s Design for Marriage (Biblical View)
Marriage, according to Scripture, is a covenant, not just a contract. It reflects the relationship between Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:22–33). Here’s what that design includes:
1. One Flesh Union
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Genesis 2:24: “A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
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Marriage is a permanent, exclusive, and intimate union between a man and a woman.
2. Reflects Christ and the Church
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Ephesians 5:25: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”
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Husbands lead with sacrificial love; wives respond with respect and trust—both roles are rooted in mutual submission to Christ.
3. Companionship and Purpose
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Genesis 2:18: “It is not good for man to be alone.”
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God created marriage for companionship, help, and partnership in fulfilling His purposes—whether in raising children, ministry, or serving others.
4. Purity and Faithfulness
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Hebrews 13:4: “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure…”
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Sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage as an act of worship and trust in God’s design.
🛠️ Biblical Pre-Marital Counselling: Purpose and Key Topics
Pre-marital counselling helps couples align their relationship with God’s plan and build a spiritually grounded foundation. Most churches or Christian counsellors cover these essential areas:
✅ 1. Spiritual Alignment
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Are both partners believers?
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Are they growing together in Christ?
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Do they pray and worship together?
✅ 2. Communication and Conflict Resolution
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Proverbs 15:1: “A gentle answer turns away wrath…”
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Tools to communicate with grace, listen well, and resolve disagreements biblically.
✅ 3. Roles and Expectations
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Biblical understanding of husband and wife roles (Eph. 5), managing chores, career expectations, leadership, and submission with love and respect.
✅ 4. Finances
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Stewardship, budgeting, debt, giving, and saving from a biblical perspective (Proverbs 21:5, Luke 16:11).
✅ 5. Sex and Intimacy
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God’s purpose for sexual purity before marriage and deep intimacy after (1 Corinthians 6:18–20).
✅ 6. Family and Boundaries
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Honoring parents, setting boundaries with extended family, and creating a new family unit (Genesis 2:24).
✅ 7. Vision and Calling
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Discussing God’s calling for your marriage—ministry, family planning, mission, or service together.